When Mother’s Day comes around, it can be impossible to ignore. It’s in your social media feeds, at your local supermarket and turning up in your inbox, encouraging you to celebrate it. Mother’s Day can be hard for lots of reasons, but it can be really hard if you or your taitamaiti / child has lost their māmā.
We’ve got some ideas for how you and your whānau can get through this tough time.
Reclaim Mother’s Day by celebrating the other important people in your whānau (they don’t have to be wāhine / women). Maybe it’s their other parent, a step-parent, an aunty, grandparent or sibling. Help your taitamaiti make them a card or a present or simply tell them how great they are.
Mother’s Day can be a good opportunity to talk about māmā. Encourage your taitamaiti to talk to people who knew their māmā. Share favourite memories, funny stories and even embarrassing moments.
If your taitamaiti is old enough to be on social media, encourage them to log off for the day. Being surrounded by posts of people with their mums and companies pushing Mother’s Day gifts can feel really hard.
If they’re up for it, make Mother’s Day full of the things māmā loved. Cook her favourite meal, listen to her favourite music, cuddle up with her favourite movie, buy her favourite flowers. It can make your taitamaiti feel closer to their māmā.
There’s no right or wrong way to grieve and there’s no right or wrong way to mark Mother’s Day. Mother’s Day might make your taitamaiti feel sad, it might make them feel happy to remember māmā, or it might make them feel nothing. They might want to do something to mark it, or they might want to ignore it. Whatever you decide is absolutely ok.
If you decide as a whānau that you want to remember māmā on Mother’s Day, here are 10 ways you can do it.
If your taitamaiti needs extra support during this time, please contact us – we’re here to help.